Schools and Confidence Building and pushing kids into the NIOS system without Nurturing…

 It's strange how much a school can affect a child's future ... I used to not score very well in school as compared to my siblings ... my parents were expecting me to flunk as ...as compared to girls in my batch who stayed in my locality i was least interested in coaching classes or scoring a distinction ... the girls in my locality from my batch-Abha Seth and Ritu Khute were both going to join the science stream and they slogged a lot in the 10th grade ...i was forced to join KCC classes in the second semester of 10th grade and i would have no energy for HW completion after reaching home by 9pm ... i went for classes for 20 days Max i think and then i quit and studied at home itself ...

Our Maths teacher Mrs Ganeshan was a little concerned too and gave me books to practice sums at home ... i was good in geometry but i did not like algebra beyond a point and she was a tad concerned ...they knew i was a lone case .... a student who hadn't any extra coaching outside of school ... 

I was really touched by her concern and the kindness she extended ... 

and after joining college i really took off and was in the scholar's batch .... madre was soooo livid with the turn around that she went around the Air Force Station saying that i must be copying full scale ...by the time i was in college ... i was sooo focused on getting out of Pune that i kept my nose to the grinding stone and took part in each and every extra curricular activity including trekking LOL 

i was collecting certificates to crack the National Hotel Management Institutes GDPI round ... extra curricular activities certificates to prove that I can be good in studies and excel in other fields too ... like trying shotput and javelin throw too ... i do not remember getting a certificate for either ... 

Do not remember getting a certificate for losing in Badminton either ...but do remember pestering the sports Sir for a participation certificate 

Luckily for me even though i had major issues with confidence in my looks and some other hang ups in life due to the initial weird twists and turns my life took ... i had no qualms in talking to folk 

Cut to my kids and the system schools have adopted to push students scoring less than 60% into the NIOS system ... 

That NCERT set syllabus for NIOS is Not Easy ...when a Mallu lawyer whose son was in Aman Setu and doing NIOS showed me the text books... i was aghast ...that syllabus is Extremely Vast and how does one push kids with learning difficulties to mug soooo much up 

Then when i was going to the Central School in Camp as it was a designated exam center 

Soooo many parents approached me with complaints about sooo many issues with the way their wards are treated ... 

and i remembered my friend in college who hated the nuns in her school who were highly rude she would say ....the parents whose kids were doing NIOS from the school my friend Rajeshree did her 10th were still rude to parents in 2015 !!! 

Decades later that school still had mean nuns who were rude to kids with learning disabilities and made them feel small 

The entire system was Skewed ... 

Then i saw that the government schools that AAP started with a lot of hoo haaa and fan fare was doing the same to kids from the lower economic strata ... which is pathetic 

However today i am reiterating that marks are never the true test of  Intelligence and capabilities ... moreover when a child gets rejected by it's school and ridiculed by peers at a young age ...it stays with them for a long time 

When complaints against my elder child became too loud and i saw the 9th grade syllabus for Math in IB ... i decided it is time i took him out of the schooling system 

He totally settled down and became calmer ... some days we would fight about the amount to read ergo i would send him to my dad to be supervised ... he did not mind my dad supervising his reading ... he refused to do statistics and i just let it go with a huge sigh 

I was really worried about his passing economics but he did and i was never Happier ... 

It was a breeze to teach my little one and we did the entire course in Statistics too ... we revised the formulae and i was sure he would do very well ... but he scored below my expectation 

I was OK as i know he studied and he did the course work completely ... 

12grade was during covid and i have no idea when it ended and i am soooo gratefull that they both have HSC certificates for 12th grade ... or else the officials at the Passport Office have Zero clue even now as to what NIOS is 

Btw I first heard about NIOS thanks to the Guju folk who live about my parents house and had a child with few challenges ... he could not hear ergo he was in the NIOS system ... 

Some times schooling systems are soooo Blind and Deaf to the Damage they do to children with slight learning challenges ... 

They push a child to question itself for decades on end ... we put sooo much Pressure on marks and scores and we forget childhood and what being children is all about ... 

If schools and colleges can not bend over backwards to Help the weakest kids ... i feel they are Failing Per Se ... 

I still remember the sponsored child who was with my elder child in Aman Setu ... she could not afford to pay for a private school so in 9th grade she shifted from the ICSE board to the SSC board ... She worked sooo very hard to catch up to the level of Marathi in the SSC board ... she was a child i would talk to on a regular basis as my Precious never ever copied his Home Work down in his diary ... most evenings i would either call his friend Akshay or Himani for the day's HW ... LOL 

Now my child is the Father of the Man ...Literally ...he looks after Everything including tax filings ... coaching them and getting to spend quality time with my kids was a trade off i had to decide on in 2018 ... i chose to not let madre or their father change the course i had opted for ,,,, homeschooling and nurturing their talents ... 

Yeah even Rapping in a Bar in Kalyani Nagar .... i was sooo scared but I stood by them and listened to them practice Eminem's Rap song over and over .... in the end they sang the Rap number they collaborated on with HotFix and it was appreciated ... 

that phase ended too but it was educative in it's own way and i remember being sooo happy with a distrack by their IB school friend Chirag from Kothrud who called them Punekars in his distrack ... and i was so happy to hear that line from their school's goalkeeper ... LOL 

Parenting has to take over where Schools Fail ... I thank my lucky stars that our relative in Khadki suggested St Felix to my dad and I was schooled by very kind nuns and teachers who were Extremely Kind and Dedicated ... 

I seriously hope that I can help a child wronged by the System ...

Friends turning foes over bat shit krazy Indian consumers !!!! hmmmmmmm ... iohhh

 It's so strange that Mr Musk who is close to the Republicans and the biggest contributor in Merrika has issues with the Ambanis ...

Congress did not like many folk who run industries ... they believe in small is beautifull ...

Everyone is J af of China which has huge orgs which have differential product placing and differential marketing strategies ...

I am soooooooo Tickled by erstwhile Communist China Really getting the Hang of Economies of Scale and capturing Markets ... which Capitalists and sadly Erstwhile socialist India still does not get Fully

China also is un peu dumb and mean to it's Industry Bigwigs ...or else we wouldn't be Labelling them as Ghorrrmint right

When Dhirubhai Ambani ran the show ...he was extremely Pro Workforce Welfare and Just ways of Being ...

I have not been following the news for ages Ergo i have NO CLUE as to what goeth with the Ambani groups ...

But I see Neeta Ambani sending food out to the journalists covering events and I think ... Goodwill does Exist ...

I am in no mood to dig up news about the Ambani Satellite Prowess and satellite kaputing prowess

Can people actually do something soooo Daft in today's Age of CONSTANT Surveillance???

AND

THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT

THE INDIAN POPULATION !!!!!!!!!

we are sinking some parts of this globe

That Populace that we are

Seriously

ERGO

Everyone will get their Fair Share of HEADACHES

aka Indian Consumers LMNFAO

Seriously the Bargain hunting weird assed

BAT SHIT KRAZY Indian Consumers

People Actually are PHIGHTING Over

seriously Now India has ARRIVED

And is Even Shining ... sigh

Kindly let Industry Breathe 🙏🏽

 Years ago i would read about the Tata's in the newspapers being vilified for paying up the ransom demanded by insurgents of the ULFA ... and Worse 

It's only after I reached ground zero that i realised that Executives from The Tata's would be kidnapped and placed in the bungalow of a Parry Agro or any other tea company Executive's bungalow ... 

Imagine the terror in the minds of the families of All the Executives involved ... ergo the Companies paid up and hired Black Cats for their own security ... 

There were no policemen around ... the estates had the Army's presence ALLLL the time ... radio station broadcasts lasted for an hour in the morning ... going from a town where i listened to the radio the live long day if i was home ... 

to

Not having cable TV and Not having something Basic like a radio was Oddd af and depressing ... 

It's only when i saw Everything that Tea Companies and Tata's in particular were doing for Empowering Executive's Wives ... i Really started admiring the company very much ... 

Tea estate bungalows in the Tata circle came with a huge cow shed that could house 40 cows ...this was to encourage Dairy development for the wives of executives ... then there was the juicing and squash making and strawberry and anthurium cultivation and jam making they introduced for the wives of tea executives ... 

So much outreach for the Tea Labourers and their children too ... 

Be it TISS or Words from JRD Tata to Mrs Sudha Murthy about Philanthropy ... Tata's stand for Development ...no matter where in India they were allowed to grow ... 

And now the Congress folk going public stating that the Family should hand over their company to the Public is IRONY Personified ... from a party that has kept leadership in The Familia Itself 

Please let Industry Breathe ... yes South Indian Honchos are efficient ... 

But i would let Parsee Entrepreneurs Breathe Easy ... they have a particular Ethos that has always been beneficial to ALLL of India ...ergo let them Be 

Everything said and Done ... Be it Dr Grant's hospital where I was Born or the Brave Mr Kurush Nowrosjee-who I never met ... 

But he is the reason my second child has a Parsee name ... I wanted a Brave and Bold child like the Bada Saheb Nowrosjee …who Never Feared the Insurgents ...

Happy Independence Day ...

 In a world where I wonder If the WTO still exists ... May countries use the WTO to end Arbitrary Trade Wars and May all our Neighbours get onto a Path to Progress and Stop Envying the Hardearned place Indians have painstakingly carved for themselves ...

May this Entire Region Improve relations with each other and remember that we are Carved from the Same Block and share blood relations and DNA with erstwhile Parts of India ...
May India truly Become a Leader in this Region and show the World How to Forge Ahead Without War
Tact and Chanakya Neti should help us turn Foe to Friends and Solve Age Old problems with Adroitness that makes India a place where Solution Seekers take Succour
May we as a Nation learn to be the Bigger and Better Entity and not Resort to Petty issues some folk seem to be stuck in ...
May we keep our Focus on the Bigger Picture ...
May we not Forget Climate Change and keep aside funds to deal with it ... may we help Everyone in this Region deal with Climat Change with Co-operation
May we become the Nation that Turns the Tide on War and put up an United Front to deal with Arbitrary Tade Wars and Focus on Collaborations for Knowledge Sharing and Persistent Progress ...
May All the Foreign Travels by Leaders help us Learn from Best Practices everywhere else and incorporate it here
May India become a Leader in Uniting this Region and moving forward ... if we have extreme poverty in neighbouring states ... it will become a Dead Weight around our ankles ...
Ergo may Governance be Thoughtfull and Gracefull too
May Ashoka be a Guide to understand ... avoiding war leads to Prosperity for All ...
May the Government have EU as a goal for This Region where we can have a Border like the one we share with Bhutan on all sides ...
May we have something to Gloat about before hitting the 80th year ...
Jaihind ...

Happy National Handloom Day ...7th August

 7th August 2018

Happy National Handloom Day....it is a labour of love ...the history teacher in school ...Mrs Gena Lemos used to tell us about the special weavers of India who grew their thumb nails long and used to weave the finest of muslin saris through the holes drilled on their thumb nails …. the British cut off the thumbs of those weavers and that method of weaving died out completely ….

the thriving handloom industry of India took a heavy beating during the colonial years to provide a market for the cloth woven in the industry in Britain ….

luckily handloom got the patronage of Royalty( in some cases) and the Govt and has a niche market ….

in rural areas many women know how to weave and have small looms in their homes ….. it is a way of life in rural India

7th August 2018 traditional clothes

 being Indian means .... loads of Types and Genres of clothes ok ...then my parents are from Kerala...i was born and bred in Maharastra.... and i got married to an Assamese ....then i have to have operations on my hand ....during which time i lose ooodles of weight and then there was the stint with teaching in colleges ...ergo Saris, And western clothes i wear during normal times ...then the western wear that fits Only post operation times ....

then there is the Assamese wear which is the mekhela chaddor .... the home wear ones and the silk ones ....

then there are the Mallus saris ...white with gold borders and pallus.... and the Mallu mundu and neriyathu ....which is the very traditional two piece Mallu wear ....then a few typical Maharashtrian saris ....

i Rarely wear all the traditional clothes i have ....however can i give away those things ...Noooo ...everything has a whatever and however kind of RTC (reference to context) plus there are occasions i have to wear some of it .... it is so expensive that ...even if i give all the old stuff away ...buying news things would seem like a crime ....  

every year i give away clothes i do not wear ...mostly Indian wear and saris that i can give away .... now there is vey little left to give away ..... and yet ....there is a load of stuff ...that is waiting patiently for ....just airing and putting away ....

first i used to get upset with All the travel across the lenght and breadth of the country and the few times i travelled outside India .... 

now i feel it is good way to Know ...How much of Jazzzmatazzz i own .... and it is the Bestest Barometer of Frugality .... 

Everytime i feel like buying Anything .... i just have to remember three words ....

Excess Luggage Bills !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO LMAO LMAO

paper correction ...7th august 2013

 when i used to teach ....paper correction was quite tedious ...a few hundreds or even running to beyond thousand five hundred !!!!!!!!!!......but the silver lining for me was the sheet of paper for the HERCULEAN BLUNDERS ...poor things some kids dint know proper usage of english.....i never ever cut marks for grammar .....but i would write down some great ones .....some great stories too i got for economics theory ..... and when the others and i were very bored and needed a break .....i wud enact the big bloopers .....was such awsum fun .....dont think other profs ever did whacko things like us in the CAP room ..... i also played music on low volume to kill the monotony ......

i cant find my sheets of carefully preserved papers to put on my blog ....am so heart broken .......a mistake i make alllllllllll the time .....i put away things so carefully and then i forget where i put it .....mustve been a squirrel in my last birth .....or some squirrel DNA in my blood i guess